The Gift of Near-Death Experiences

Many in Hawaii just received this message texted to phones:

BALLISTIC MISSLE THREAT INBOUND TO HAWAII. SEEK IMMEDIATE SHELTER. THIS IS NOT A DRILL.

It turned out to be a false alarm.

Personally, I see this error as a gift.

Steve Jobs captures why quite beautifully:

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

Unfortunately, most people who have encountered this quote kept it at arms length.

They haven’t really taken the time to internalize the reality that they could be dead soon.

That is the beauty of what those in Hawaii just experienced.

It felt unequivocally real.

If it said, “This IS a drill”, the real-ness would have vanished.

The key is to use this experience of potential impending death to transform your life and burn away all that is false and non-essential rather than contracting into fear and trauma.

I have meditated on my death for many years.

Often repeating the mantra, “I’m already dead. I’m already dead.”

And have experienced unmistakable physiological changes during and after the mantra repetition as a result.

As such, I am prepared to die at any moment.

This prepares me to not just to leave my physical body, passing into the Bardo equinanimously, but also fearlessly take on whatever challenge I must.

Additionally it enables me to do what Eric Thomas said is the most important thing required for success. “to be able at any moment to sacrifice what you are, for what you will become.”

Of course, I have the benefit of knowing that death is merely a transitory state, one that is expansive and painless if you can relax into it.

I know death is an experience my soul has been through millions of times before.

As has yours.

Even if doubt clouds your recognition.

I would consider it a bummer if I died tomorrow.

I still have much to fulfill in my karmic contract and have set large energetic waves in motion that I would like to see come to fruition.

But I would accept my fate and begin preparing for the next life like a champion readying for a new season.

So use any near death experience you have in your life to get in deeper touch with your True Nature.

And take inspiration from other’s near death experiences to move beyond your own fear of death now.

On Accountability Partners for Visions, Goals, and Resolutions

Personally, I almost never use accountability partners or other people to hold me accountable to my goals or resolutions.

I am accountable to myself and the high standards I set for myself.

And that is all I need.

If you need someone else to hold you accountable to your goals and resolutions that probably means you have these two things going on:

1) You don’t want it bad enough.

You need to increase the compellingness of your vision, goals and resolutions and anchor them with more burning desire, emotional intensity and physical movement.

2) You have unresolved parts conflict.

Part of you wants to realize your vision, goals and resolution, but other parts don’t.

This can happen because other parts have other conflicting beliefs or fears about what will happen if those visions or goals are realized.

Like, “What if I’m too successful and I can’t handle it”…or “what if xyz people don’t like me anymore once I make this change in my life”.

You have to consciously talk to the different parts of yourself and get in full parts alignment within yourself.

In the interim, if accountability partners help you move towards your vision, goals and resolutions, then use them…as progress will create the momentum and confidence for more progress, and eventually taking off the ‘training wheels’ of accountability buddies.

Trapped in a Story of Healing

Many people are trapped in a story of healing, often as mode of avoidance of something deeper and more painful — not knowing and living their life purpose.

So they hide behind the story that they can’t pursue their life purpose because they’re ‘broken’, ‘wounded’ or ‘just not healed enough yet’.

The question isn’t whether you are fully healed.

Life is constantly producing damage as we live.

So we must constantly cycle between stress and recovery.

The question for people focused on their healing is,

“What would you do if you were fully healed and why are you not doing that now?

And, “how will you know when you have healed enough to pursue what your Higher Self wants to pursue?”

For biological healing, say for an athlete this is simple.

When they tear their ACL, they rehab for 9-12 months and resume their athletic activities once the knee can handle a sufficient weight load and the leg has sufficient mobility.

Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual wounding is more subtle and complicated, less objective, and much easier to hide within.

Often when people overcome the fear to go after what they really want many of the other ailments heal themselves relatively naturally and effortlessly.

It is said that the two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.

So if you are struggling to heal and you don’t know why you are here on Earth and what you’re here to do, I encourage you to go deep into that exploration and see if progress on that journey, doesn’t end up resolving much of the healing you’re seeking.

On Top Athletes Believing in a Higher Power

When I was going through my Atheistic/Rationalist phase 5-10 years ago, I couldn’t help but notice how nearly ALL the top athletes would praise a Higher Power for their success.
At the very least, I recognized it must be a super-effective Placebo even if there were no Rational/Epistemological basis for this belief.
Now I understand beyond any shadow of a doubt how Rationally/Epistemologically/Psychologically/Spiritually Real tapping into a Higher Power truly is.
You can’t overcome Doubt and Agnosticism of a Higher Power through thinking about it.
The only way is to walk the Path and see for Yourself.
Lastly, I would add that the Monolithic God most athletes speak of is not precisely accurate.
The Metaphysical realm is much more Pluralistic, full of high resolution Holarchy.

Do You Love Yourself?

Say to yourself,
“I love myself.”
“I love myself.”
“I love myself.”
Does it feel true?
If not, please share, what is in the way?
And then keep repeating this mantra every day until you melt away all resistance.
Whatever resistance is still stubbornly persistent,
Dissolve it through action.
If you feel too guilty, take action to make amends.
If you feel too angry, offer a letter or words of forgiveness.
If you feel too ashamed, find compassion for yourself and others.
If you have too many negative people in your life tearing you down, raise your standards for who you let have an intimate role in your life.
That you are worthy of love from yourself and others is always true.
Even when you can’t see it.
But when you can,
Your life will Bloom like a Thousand Gardens in the Orchard of the Divine.
So say it to yourself,
“I love myself.”
“I love myself.”
“I love myself.”
Until Universal Truth becomes your Personal Truth.

Fuck your reputation

You know all those people who say your reputation is your most valuable asset?

Fuck those people.
And their socialized mind.
And how they use Social Normalization Pressure to control you,
And themselves.
Tying your Authentic Self in Bondage.

What do you do when your Truth and your Reputation are in conflict?
You follow your Higher Truth.
Or you become a fucking stilted, Pavlovian-conditioned zombie, automaton.
If people like your Higher Truth, so be it.
If people don’t like your Higher Truth, so be it.
True Awakening requires Emptiness of Reputation.

You cannot Fuse your Personality with your Soul by walking down the path of Conformity and Inauthenticity.
So Burn your Fucking Bridges.
Because any Bridge that burns from the Fire of your Authentic Light,
Was not a path you were truly meant to walk down.

Do you know what your most valuable asset is?
Your Accumulated Karmic Merit from following the Noble Eightfold Path of:
Right View, Right Intention, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness, Right Concentration.

And your continual Re-Connection to Source.
‘Forget safety.
Live where you fear to live.
Destroy your reputation.
Be Notorious.’
-Rumi