The Gift of Near-Death Experiences

Many in Hawaii just received this message texted to phones:

BALLISTIC MISSLE THREAT INBOUND TO HAWAII. SEEK IMMEDIATE SHELTER. THIS IS NOT A DRILL.

It turned out to be a false alarm.

Personally, I see this error as a gift.

Steve Jobs captures why quite beautifully:

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

Unfortunately, most people who have encountered this quote kept it at arms length.

They haven’t really taken the time to internalize the reality that they could be dead soon.

That is the beauty of what those in Hawaii just experienced.

It felt unequivocally real.

If it said, “This IS a drill”, the real-ness would have vanished.

The key is to use this experience of potential impending death to transform your life and burn away all that is false and non-essential rather than contracting into fear and trauma.

I have meditated on my death for many years.

Often repeating the mantra, “I’m already dead. I’m already dead.”

And have experienced unmistakable physiological changes during and after the mantra repetition as a result.

As such, I am prepared to die at any moment.

This prepares me to not just to leave my physical body, passing into the Bardo equinanimously, but also fearlessly take on whatever challenge I must.

Additionally it enables me to do what Eric Thomas said is the most important thing required for success. “to be able at any moment to sacrifice what you are, for what you will become.”

Of course, I have the benefit of knowing that death is merely a transitory state, one that is expansive and painless if you can relax into it.

I know death is an experience my soul has been through millions of times before.

As has yours.

Even if doubt clouds your recognition.

I would consider it a bummer if I died tomorrow.

I still have much to fulfill in my karmic contract and have set large energetic waves in motion that I would like to see come to fruition.

But I would accept my fate and begin preparing for the next life like a champion readying for a new season.

So use any near death experience you have in your life to get in deeper touch with your True Nature.

And take inspiration from other’s near death experiences to move beyond your own fear of death now.

On Accountability Partners for Visions, Goals, and Resolutions

Personally, I almost never use accountability partners or other people to hold me accountable to my goals or resolutions.

I am accountable to myself and the high standards I set for myself.

And that is all I need.

If you need someone else to hold you accountable to your goals and resolutions that probably means you have these two things going on:

1) You don’t want it bad enough.

You need to increase the compellingness of your vision, goals and resolutions and anchor them with more burning desire, emotional intensity and physical movement.

2) You have unresolved parts conflict.

Part of you wants to realize your vision, goals and resolution, but other parts don’t.

This can happen because other parts have other conflicting beliefs or fears about what will happen if those visions or goals are realized.

Like, “What if I’m too successful and I can’t handle it”…or “what if xyz people don’t like me anymore once I make this change in my life”.

You have to consciously talk to the different parts of yourself and get in full parts alignment within yourself.

In the interim, if accountability partners help you move towards your vision, goals and resolutions, then use them…as progress will create the momentum and confidence for more progress, and eventually taking off the ‘training wheels’ of accountability buddies.

The Passion You Need to Unlock the Life of Your Higher Self

This is the spirit and passion you need to unlock the life of your Higher Self:

“There’s no excuse for not living up to your full potential!”

“I didn’t get a new daddy, I didn’t get a new mama? What changed? I changed!”

“I’m going to everything in my power, every single day to become a Victor and not a Victim!”

“We want people to make guarantees to us, but we aren’t willing to make guarantees to ourself!”

“You never looked yourself in the mirror and said you let you down. You owe you an explanation.”

Do You Want to Know the REAL SECRET to Healing All Your Neuroses and Trauma?

It’s this.

 

Despite the satirical callousness of this approach, it is not without merit when used in its proper context.

From a neuroplasticity perspective whatever we give attention to is biologically strengthened, and whatever we ignore is biologically weakened.

The neurons associated with particular experiences literally grow or die based on how we respond to them when they enter our consciousness.

The oft-used pithy phrase is “Neurons that fire together, wire together.”

The biggest missing ingredient from going from comedic awakening to realization is ‘how’.

“How do I stop my ingrained patterns of thinking?”

The answer is:

a) The right training in meditation to learn how to control your thoughts

b) the right therapeutic methods to activate and release childhood trauma and attachment disorders

c) Finding loving, accepting friends, family and healers, who hold you as both perfect as you are and your potential on the other side of your healing

Books I Read in 2017 // Do You Have Recommendations for 2018?

As 2017 comes to a close I was taking inventory of the books I’ve read this year.

All of the ones I read were pretty great and I would highly recommended them.

What are some of your favorite books that you read this year?

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1) Unbeatable Mind: Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level by Mark Divine (H/T to @Daniel Schmachtenberger for the recommendation)

2) The Precious Treasury of Pith Instructions (The Seven Treasuries Series) by Longchen Rabjam (A core text in the Buddhist Dzogchen lineage)

3) The Dark Challenge by Nick Scott Ram (A lord of the rings style allegory of the battle between light and dark in the universe. Fiction that is much closer to reality than you might think.)

4) The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

5) The Everything and the Nothing by Meher Baba

6) The Divided Mind by John E. Sarno

7) Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis by J.D. Vance

8) The Inevitable: Understanding the 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future by Kevin Kelly

9) The Road to Ruin: The Global Elites’ Secret Plan for the Next Financial Crisis by Jim Rickards

10) Answers by Mother Meera

11) Trump and a Post-Truth World by Ken Wilber

12) The Accelerating TechnOnomic Medium (ATOM) by Kartik Gada

Trauma Contextualization

One of the best models of human development maps us along 3 dimensions: Waking Up, Cleaning Up and Growing Up.

I write about all 3 and I think some of the confusion and critiques I’ve received about my writing would benefit from more explicit contextualization within this model.

Basically, Waking Up comprises the Spiritual Path, Cleaning Up comprises the Trauma Healing path and Growing Up comprises the journey of increasing the depth and complexity of dimensional areas like our mind, heart, worldview and skills.

While these dimensions of our being are somewhat independent, where uneven development is the norm rather than exception, (such as people with high intellect but low moral development) there are also many thresholds or necessary but not sufficient configurations.

The most relevant example of this I would like to illuminate is the relationship between Waking Up and Cleaning Up.

As Eastern Spirituality has come to the West over the last 50 years it is has been noted how much most Westerners struggle to make progress down the Eastern paths of Spiritual Awakening and Self-Realization.

It has become clear that one of the primary reasons for this lack of progress is the high prevalence of trauma in Western Culture.

And there seem to be strict limits on how much Spiritual Progress one can make if they have unresolved deep trauma.

In fact, it is advisable if one has deep trauma, to focus most of their energy on healing their trauma rather than spiritual awakening.

Progressing along the spiritual path when deep trauma is present often results in frustrated stagnation or perhaps worse, dangerous Guru Madness – where the spiritual awakening is real but is coming through the person with a frequency of disassociated trauma lurking in their shadow, often with disastrous consequences for their students.

When I say deep trauma, I’m primarily talking about traumas that occurred in early childhood such as physical abuse, sexual abuse, or unsafe home environments where domestic violence and fighting was present in the family system.

These types of traumas create deep energetic patterns within the nervous system that makes much of the natural Growing Up processes more challenging.

However, if one can source a container or foundation within themselves where the nervous system is stable and integrated, and smaller life traumas can be experienced within that container or on that foundation, than Spiritual Practice can be highly effective in healing that damage by directly cutting through its False Nature.

In summary and conclusion, whenever I am posting about Spirituality and Awakening, please assume that it is directed to people who are unburdened by deep trauma, and that those that are burdened by deep trauma have a different mountain they need to climb first.