Cambridge Analytica, Trump, and Societal Evolution

In case you were believing or wondering if Cambridge Analytica explains how and why Trump was elected and if you should be pissed at Facebook by extension…Don’t.

Because it doesn’t.

And you’d be missing for the forest for the trees in the larger messy trajectory of the evolution of society and culture.

Trump is a catalytic force for cultural transformation, perfectly tapping into the dynamic tensions and dysfunctions in society at large, bringing shadows to the surface so they may be seen and transformed or perhaps lived through more deeply until they are ready to be cleared.

He is a big part of carrying out the necessary evolutionary self-correction of cultural evolution as the status quo of liberal post-modernism failed in too many aspects of societal leadership and did not possess the capacity to break through the glass ceiling to the next level of cultural evolution. Therefore, culture is taking a step back with the Trump presidency, to self-reflect, clean and chart a new course in preparation to take two steps forward.

Biological and Cultural Evolution are smarter than we are and from the right perspective one can see how Evolution has never made a mistake.

The Trump Presidency isn’t a mistake.

It is necessary.

All is as it should be.

And if you feel a burning desire to fight or #resist then do that too, because that’s as it should be.

Powerful Female Voices Healing the Current Cultural Masculine/Feminine Divide

 

I am grateful for the continued presence in my feed of strong, powerful, fiery, articulate female voices lighting the path forward towards the higher forms of Masculine/Feminine relationship in this disorienting time of old form gender deconstructionism.


From Maria Palumbo:

Masculine, society has done you a disservice.

We have told you to kill your soul fire, as to not offend us.

Be nice husbands, good fathers, have a moral life and do not do the wrong thing, or else. But that keeps you from doing anything at all.

We have told you to ask politely for what you want and never own us.

We ask you to smile sweetly, never push, never demand, never hunger.

To be a washed out version of a man.

You have been walking around like a sexual anorexic in the name of being “good,” acting out in ways that bring you shame and pain, because society does not welcome your fullest animal self.

In the name of feminism we declare we don’t need you and find you not knowing how to truly let yourself be needed.

If you are fully awake in your sexuality, we like to call you wrong, humiliate you, even put a label on you and cast you out forever without explaining to you exactly what we desire.

But we need you here.

Pulsating, alive, vibrant, awake.

We need that fire in your eyes that light up when you see a beautiful woman.

We need your hands that know just how to touch us so we cannot help but say your name over and over.

We need your “No,” and “I desire,” more than your “I’m not sure,” and “Are you okay?”

We need you calling out the woman in us with trust in our ability for you to handle us, knowing we will not break under you.

During this #metoo movement you have become even more careful, you are not allowed to have an opinion, you are not allowed to speak up. And we call this women’s freedom.

We think we are giving our women a greater voice by silencing you, jumping on any word that you may or may not say and casting you out of our loving embrace forever.

We are hurting ourselves by removing your agency and power.

No, you might not always say the right thing or do the right thing.

Your come on might be a turn off.

And we will make an adjustment. We will speak up. You musnt turn the light off entirely in fear of being, “too much.”

When we tell you to be quiet:

Speak up.

When we say that your desire is too much:

Roar it from the rooftops.

When you try to talk yourself into a life of normalcy and empty promises:

Burn it all down.

We need you alive, undone, dripping with the nectar of life that nourishes us like nothing else.

This cultural battle for the future aspirational dynamic between Men and Women and the Masculine and the Feminine, is for women to lead.

Not only because the Feminine been historically silenced, but as I’ve written before it is now more Evolved (https://www.facebook.com/maxhmarmer/posts/10212702473970804)
In a post #metoo environment rife with uncorked emotion and energy embodying the full gamut of the better and lesser Angels of our Nature…

With the lesser vibrating with: anger, vitriol, shame, counter-aggression, division and separation.

I am stand for the Better Angels of our Nature vibrating with: love, unity, respect, healing restoration, and mutually transformational symbiosis.
The only way forward to the world our deepest hearts know is possible is through the co-evolutionary empowerment of the upward spiraling double-helix of the Collective Masculine/Feminine Polarity.

Here are two other powerful posts from friends and leaders lighting the way forward written in the last 2 weeks.

From Samantha Sweetwater:

Complaining about patriarchy seems like one of the very worst ways to heal patriarchy. What we resist persists.
I have never seen any conversation about resisting patriarchy do anything to heal it. Rather, it polarizes men from women, stirs anger and separation, and creates divides between imagined sides that aren’t even real.

We’ve all internalized patriarchy, and in my 25 years as a healer I have come to see, without a doubt, that patriarchy entraps and disempowers the masculine in equal proportion to the harm it has done to the feminine.

I feel that it is incumbent on us to drop the block. We have the strength of heart to take the chip off our collective shoulders.

Real healing – both for individuals and between people – is born in the interior strength, courage and self response-ability to set down pain, anger and victimhood and to step forward in trust.

The current terms of the conversation leave very little room for men to be full human beings, to be allies for women, or to come to terms with the fact that patriarchy enslaved them, too.

From Gillian Pothier:

THE SHAMING of THE MASCULINE:
WEAPONIZED FEMININE PAIN

Yesterday, I came across a post here in the FB wilds that made my heart skip a beat.
The subject of this particular thread was masculine ineptitude. Some dude somewhere said the unconscious thing. Some man somewhere was semi-invasive, judgmental + old school in his outreach. All of this is TRUE….and…there is a massive PROBLEM when all that it takes to trip the live-wire of the feminine pain body into a frenzied state of collusion is just some dude who says stupid, uncultivated shit:
another banal example of sanctimonious masculine communication.

Dozens upon dozens of women jumped on the thread and were hungrily throwing down their favorite eye-rolling gifs and snarky comments into the feeding frenzy. One disrespectful comment rolling right after the next, a parade of exasperated, eye-rolling gifs all serving to feed the INCOMPLETE narrative we are mainlining in our collective about the Masculine:

Men are inept.
Men do and say stupid shit.
Men are fools.
(and of course: Men are dangerous, altho this was not the aspect of the Masculine being spotlighted in this particular thread)

In the name of “solidarity”, many women believe that we deserve to experience “fun” or comedy by shaming these behaviors and by celebrating their disrespect of the masculine. It is, after all, what we have been hypnotized into believing is an appropriate response via television + movies that celebrate the bumbling masculine, the man-boy, or the fool.

In my clearly less entertaining world-view, laughing at another’s expense is never a “parade” or comedic. It is nothing more than gallows humor:
an unconscious and misaligned antidote to our own unspoken *greatest and singularly most devastating feminine fear*:

WHAT IF THIS IS TRUE?
What if NO MAN will EVER be able to meet me in the fullness and the wildness of my own feminine expression?

As I looked over the names of the women who were posting on that thread, my heart sank further. I know some of these women personally and professionally and have long admired their voices and their work in the world. They may read these words. And yet, here they were, armed with snarky gifs and sass, highlighting + shaming the unconscious masculine in the *false-light* name of “solidarity”.

With clucking enthusiasm, the women cheered:
“OMG, THIS THREAD IS THE BEST THING ON THE INTERNET!”
Um, NO.

Let me tell you something, babygirl, that thread — and what motivates threads like these — is decidedly NOT “the best thing on the internet”…..these threads REEK of feminine desperation. Sure, its all packaged up in cheeky “fun” and “humor” and “solidarity” — but it is straight-up feminine grief, rage, fear, and heartbreak all tricked out in the wolf’s clothing of social media.
Posts like these (and there is no shortage of them) are viewed hundreds and hundreds of time, they energetically AMPLIFY THE WOUND and the separation between men and women: they are *not* benevolent.

There is always a “river beneath the river” — and when dozens of women come together to commiserate, disrespect, poke fun and share quips of their latest encounter with the unconscious, checked-out masculine, it is not “humor” they are seeking. It is a pressure release valve, *at the expense of the masculine* (and their deepest feminine integrity, I would fully suspect) because their own feminine pain body is terribly hurting. They have been disappointed, heartbroken, or a wound has been inadvertently touched or re-opened and instead of BEING WITH THE TRUTH OF THE PAIN, we lash out….lipgloss, hair just so, a cute dress, mile high heels… and READY TO KILL.

I deeply understand this feminine desperation:
IT IS IN ME, TOO.

There are moments that this longing feels ancient and timeless, a deep desperate weariness in body + heart for men to ALIGN in action and behavior to the TRUTH of WHO THEY ARE. And when they FAIL through meekness, arrogance, impulsivity, unconsciousness, or privilege, it touches a brimstone in the feminine psyche that RAGES in anguish. I know this place in me…I know both the fury and the sorrow that feels like it may just swallow me whole.

THERE IS A MASSIVE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FEELING OUR FEELINGS AND WEAPONIZING THEM.

The moment we as women use our voice or social platforms to spotlight masculine ineptitude just for the hell of it, to shame men in a throw-down of anguish + sorrow masquerading as “humor”, we are literally weaponizing our own pain. Our pain becomes nothing more than a heat-seeking missile for collusion amongst our wounded sisters. We literally project it, vomiting it into the collective for agreement and collusion by other women who share similar wounding, the same fears, and a similar unmetabolized trauma constellation. All human beings share the same evolutionary thrust to belong….but seeking agreement and collusion to unconsciously regulate OUR OWN PAIN is nothing more than collective trauma-bonding.

The dark truth is that sometimes it IS easier to weaponize our pain than it is to bear the weight of our own archaic feminine heartache. However, each time we weaponize our pain, we are CREATING THE PROBLEM. We are perpetuating the narrative that is being *AGREED UPON BY WOMEN ABOUT MEN* and THEREFORE **CREATED** in the collective.

Women: instead of giving up our power by succumbing to shaming men for their weakness/unconsciousness/abuse of privilege, etc, we need to UNDERSTAND OUR OWN POWER and SHOW UP in our FULLNESS ALIGNED TO THIS GREAT and IMMENSE FEMININE CREATIONAL POTENCY.

**DISRESPECTING THE MASCULINE IS THE OPPOSITE FREQUENCY OF TRUE FEMININE POWER.**

I am going to write those words again so that specific transmission stands a shot in the dark chance of penetrating the clenched and armored Feminine heart:

**DISRESPECTING THE MASCULINE IS THE OPPOSITE FREQUENCY OF TRUE FEMININE POWER.**

As women, we need to BE and DO BETTER than this weaponization of our Feminine pain, for ourselves, for one another, our children, our world, and YES: OUR MEN.

 

The Holy Trinity: Health, Wealth & Relationships

Superior forms of cardio training to running:

Ecstatic Dance. Great Sex.

Superior form of working a job to get money:

Pouring your life energy towards making your dreams a reality and sacrificing till you get paid handsomely for it.

Superior form of trying to fit in and feel socially accepted:

Being yourself. Not giving a fuck, letting the chips fall where they may and magnetically attracting your tribe.

I give you,

The Holy Trinity:

Health, Wealth and Relationships.

On Getting Back Up When I’ve Been Knocked Down

 

Life inevitably has ups and downs.

When I was knocked down hard in the past, I stayed down for longer than I needed, because in going all in and coming up short, I didn’t emotionally, mentally and spiritually prepare well enough for the losses and failures.

The pain, disappointment and devastation hit me harder than I was expecting.

Add to that, I was curious about the dark. A part of me wanted to know after efforting so much to chase after my mission and purpose since the ripe age of 13, swimming upstream stroke after stroke, overcoming obstacles and resistances day after day, what would happen if I just let all my pushing go and let the river of darkness pick me up off my feet and take me downstream?

Last year my cycles of initiation were completed. The curiosity satiated. The lies of depression understood. The psychological brush fires painfully burning away all false attachments, to reveal only the indestructible core of my essence.

Showing me there is literally nothing to fear. Allowing me to journey forth with boundless freedom, unshakeable confidence and inexhaustible enthusiasm.

An Absolute Truth containing all the energetic undulance of the universe’s inevitable pulsations of expansion and contraction.

What Einstein Had to Say About Alignment

Einstein is speaking to proper alignment within the Immanent Holarchy of the Spirit -> Soul -> Personality.

Your agency is your self. Your Body/Mind.

Your True Identity is All of Existence. 

Your Task is to over come the persistent illusory prison that you are your Body/Mind.

Your Process is recognizing all the energetic Self-contractions that manifest as limiting beliefs, unresolved traumas, and negative emotions like fear, uncertainty and doubt that stand between you and Identifying as All of Existence.

It is here where unending Liberation and Positive Flourishing is found.

A Beautiful Poem on Love, Self-Worth, and Solitude

 

Solitude

God, my alone feels so good, but lately I’ve craving something more, something deeper
I want love
But not just any kind of Love, no,
I want a love so deep it’d make the ocean jealous.
But I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude. You must love me for everything I’m worth and then some.
Start with my eyes, look into them like you want to know all the good, bad, and anything beyond. From my eyes go to my mind, love me for everything I know and love me just as much to teach me what I do not.
Hold me in your arms, and love me for everything I am, from my breasts to my thighs, and even the scars that others have left behind
But tell me if you’re not up for it…Not that you don’t want me but rather you can’t handle me.
And please don’t say, “I won’t be like those other dudes and break your heart.”
You see my solitude has always been sweet, and during that time I learned to love myself before I could learn to love anyone else.
Give me the love that I’ve been craving, make the ocean jealous. Fall for my eyes without knowing me just yet
And then kiss me like you want to be loved just as much
Remember that I want to be loved as deep as the ocean, but remember that I am like the ocean
I can slip through your fingers, but manage to hold up an army of ships
Kiss me, hold me, love me, but tell me if you’re not up for it
I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude

Do the Problems of the World Make Us Screwed as a Species?

 

Someone in a Private Facebook Group I follow asked me this Question, and I thought I would give my Answer:

“Are we as a Species Fucked ? For real ?

Not to sound gravely pessimistic yet how many dire local and World wide issues are there to even deal with ?

Really what do you think/feel about our overwhelming societal problems ?

If we get down real into the background feeling behind daily doings, does your Being feel we are doomed as a species ?

Candid truth please 🙏🏽

No solutions needed for this post and comments…just your real feeling please 🙏🏽”


Whatever your perspective is:

The world is doomed,

Or, we are living in the best time in human history.

You will find evidence to support your perspective.

My perspective is that we are at the best time in human history, but we are also facing more complex problems than ever before, which can feel overwhelming to many.

But this is how all complex adaptive evolutionary systems work — as they grow and complexify, so do the problems they are confronted with.

These are simply growing pains.

Sometimes complex systems advance to a new level of coherence and sometimes they fail and take a step back, stabilize and then accelerate from that base.

Some dimensions of the world are making the leap to the next level whereas others are self correcting by taking a step back.

There’s enough resiliency in the world system now that I don’t believe we are at risk of existential collapse, although the potential for things to get pretty ugly is there.

Narcissism or Mutually Empowered Greatness?

One of the biggest misunderstandings about my social media presence comes from the many people who think I am trying to signal I’m better than everyone else for some kind of narcissistic grandeur.

No, I am intending to signal that we all can become our best selves through hard work and putting our life energy in the areas that bring the most results.

If you think I’m a narcissist, that’s a projection from your own shadow and lack of conviction in your own true self worth.

I am sharing my own authentic journey thru the highs and lows to find those on aligned journeys and inspire and guide others who are ready to take the plunge into the unknown of their own Hero’s Journey.

I believe everyone inside themselves has the blueprint for their own manifest Hero’s Journey and unmanifest journey of Self-Realization.

It’s just a matter of whether people are willing to confront their fears and doubts and Heed the Call.

Life isn’t meant to be about the construction of small worlds of complacent safety and comfort.

Life is meant to be an Adventure.

Through the Outer Planes of Jungles, Mountains and Cities and the Inner Planes of Consciousness.

It’s Just a Ride, By Bill Hicks

The world is like a ride at an amusement park, and when you choose to go on it, you think it’s real, because that’s how powerful our minds are. And the ride goes up and down and round and round and it has thrills and chills and it’s very brightly colored and it’s very loud. And it’s fun, for a while.

Some people have been on the ride for a long time, and they begin to question: ‘Is this real? Or is this just a ride?’ And other people have remembered, and they come back to us and they say ‘Hey! Don’t worry, don’t be afraid — ever — because… this is just a ride.’ And we kill those people.

‘Shut him up! We have a lot invested in this ride! Shut him up! Look at my furrows of worry; look at my big bank account, and my family. This has to be real.’ It’s just a ride. But we always kill those good guys who try and tell us that — ever notice that? — and we let the demons run amok. But it doesn’t matter, because… it’s just a ride, and we can change it any time we want. It’s only a choice. No effort. No worry. No job. No savings and money. Just a choice, right now, between fear and love. The eyes of fear want you to put bigger locks on your door, buy bigger guns, close yourself off. The eyes of love, instead, see all of us as one.

Here’s what we can do to change the world, right now, into a better ride. Take all that money we spend on weapons and defense each year and, instead, spend it feeding, clothing and educating the poor of the world, which it would do many times over — not one human being excluded — and we can explore space together, both inner and outer, forever. In peace.

 

My Rhythm

Finally hit a wall and needed to take my first weekend off in 2018, 6 weeks in.

When you are chasing multi-dimensional greatness you run on a different rhythm.

Aside from a few extended periods of depression, where I needed to shut everything down and do deeper cleansing and integration work, I’ve been pushing myself to exhaustion in this rhythm since I turned 13.

Study the greats.

Take inspiration from the greats.

Live your soul’s unique expression of greatness.

Elon Musk

Work like hell. I mean you just have to put in 80 to 100 hour weeks every week. If other people are putting in 40 hour workweeks and you’re putting in 100 hour workweeks, you know that you will achieve in four months what it takes them a year to achieve.

Kobe Bryant

If your job is to be the best basketball player you can be, to do that you have to practice and train, you have train as much as you can, as often as you can. So if you get up at 10 in the morning, train at 12, train for 2 hours, 12-2, you have to let your body recover, so you eat and recover, you get back out and train from 6-8 and then you go home, eat, shower, go to bed do it again. Those are 2 sessions. Imagine you wake up at 3, train 4-6am, eat breakfast, relax, go back at it 9 to 11, then you’re back at it again 2-4, then back at again 7-9…look at how much more training I’ve done by starting at 4am. You do that as the years go on, the separation you have with your competitors and your peers, just grows larger and larger and by years 5 to 6, it doesn’t matter what type of work they’re doing in the summer, they’re never going to catch up, because they’re 5 years behind.

Will Smith

I’ve never really viewed myself as particularly talented. I’ve viewed myself as slightly above average in talent. And where I excel is ridiculous, sickening, work ethic. You know, while the other guy’s sleeping? I’m working. While the other guy’s eatin’? I’m working. While the other guy’s making love, I mean, I’m making love, too. But I’m working really hard at it.

Drake

Yeah uh, look, fuck all that happy to be here shit that y’all want me on
I’m the big homie, they still be tryna lil’ bro me dog
Like I should fall in line, like I should alert niggas
When I’m ’bout to drop somethin’ crazy and I say I’m the greatest of my generation
Like I should be dressin’ different
Like I should be less aggressive and pessimistic
Like I should be way more nervous and less dismissive
Like I should be on my best behavior
And not talk my shit and do it major like the niggas who paved the way for us
Like I didn’t study the game to the letter
And understand that I’m not doin’ it the same, man, I’m doin’ it better
Like I didn’t make that clearer this year
Like I should feel, I don’t know, guilty for saying that
They should put a couple more mirrors in here so I can stare at myself
These are usually just some thoughts that I would share with myself
But I thought “Fuck it”.