Stephen Covey author of the 7 Habits of Highly Successful People 5th Habit is: Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
A related Relational and Spiritual Imperative:
Seek first to See others before asking to be Seen.
So much relationship disharmony comes from interaction with Projections and False or Unrealistic Expectations of others.
Where much of those False or Unrealistic Expectations stem from that Inaccurate Projection and lack of Truly Seeing Others.
When we Truly See others.
And when we are in turn Truly Seen.
We can relate with what Truly Is.
And from that place we can commune directly with Reality’s Fundament:
Harmony and Love.