\nthe physical pain
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\nto be
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I can get you close.<\/p>\n
When you break up with someone you Love it is experientially similar to Death, because a Death is happening. Your Identities merged and now a part of that Identity is Dying.<\/p>\n
So whatever is the Biological correlate to the Psycho-Spiritual pain experienced during the Death of a Loved one, is similar during a break up.<\/p>\n
The longing for Love is almost the inverse of that.<\/p>\n
You feel the Unrealized Potential of Identity Merging Love and that Unrealized Potential feels like death.<\/p>\n
What is Dying is the Vision in your mind and heart not (yet) coming Alive.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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