{"id":1809,"date":"2014-05-25T14:27:52","date_gmt":"2014-05-25T20:27:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.maxmarmer.com\/?p=1809"},"modified":"2016-01-08T14:29:19","modified_gmt":"2016-01-08T20:29:19","slug":"reflections-on-male-vs-female-violence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.maxmarmer.com\/blog\/reflections-on-male-vs-female-violence\/","title":{"rendered":"Reflections on Male Vs. Female Violence"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/u3PgH86OyEM\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Why do people smile when the woman attacks the man?<\/p>\n<p>It seems to me like it might come from the same place in the psyche from where people derive satisfaction when an underdog wins in athletic competition.<\/p>\n<p>The odds are usually against women in an argument turns physical and the &#8220;winner&#8221; is usually determined by physical strength times aggression.<\/p>\n<p>And everyone loves an underdog.<\/p>\n<p>To further drive home this psychological hypothesis, imagine an incredibly buff tall female body builder physically abusing a scrawny 5 foot 2 male after an argument between them.<\/p>\n<p>Likely people wouldn&#8217;t find that funny. And would instead react similarly to how the people in the video acted when the man attacked the woman.<\/p>\n<p>So I think you&#8217;ll see this isn&#8217;t a gender issue but rather a strength issue which is normally determined by gender.<\/p>\n<p>So then the under recognized situation of female on male abuse can take on far more nuanced angle&#8230;what is the socially acceptable procedure the person with greater physical strength can do when they are being physically attacked?<\/p>\n<p>One possible solution is for the person of greater physical strength to assert their strength to the point of diffusion or neutralization but no further and then follow it with a moral reprimand to make very clear that behavior is unacceptable and intolerable.<\/p>\n<p>Interestingly, arguably that&#8217;s what happened in the recent Jay Z &#8211; Solange Knowles situation, save for the in-the-moment impassioned reprimand, which I believe would have been the appropriate response.<\/p>\n<p>Thoughts?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why do people smile when the woman attacks the man? 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